My friend Abbey texted me the other day and said, “But seriously. Can we write a book together?” As a writer the thought of my name on a book is the BEST dream I can dream, so automatically I said, “YES! What are we going to write about?” And she said the most perfect thing in the world:
“Being loud women for Jesus.”
MY HEART. I know a lot of people struggle with wondering if they will ever measure up. Will I ever be enough? Will I ever earn the love of Jesus? Will I ever be the girl other people want to be friends with and guys want to date? Of course, the easy thing for me to do is look in your eyes and say: You are perfect. You were created perfectly and you are the best version of yourself because of your love for Jesus.
However, I know that in my heart the answer is not that simple. Nor is it that helpful! You see, I struggle with the same lie on the opposite end: Am I too much? Am I too rough around the edges? Am I too loud and obnoxious for a career in ministry?
My friend and mentor, Sarah, reposted this picture on Instagram the other day: “what about this theory. the fear of not being enough. and the fear of being ‘too much.’ are exactly the same fear. the fear of being you. ”
We’re all suffering from the same problems, ladies. We’re suffering from a problem of not realizing just how great our substance is. There are societal pressures to be or feel a certain way and when we don’t add up, we wonder what we can change about ourselves.
And the worst part about it is that we automatically feel like we’re alone. This is where clear conversation and good girlfriends come in. Find you an Abbey. A woman who fiercely loves Jesus and others. A woman who laughs with you until you cry, brings you honey chicken biscuits, and knows the essence of your being a loud woman that loves Jesus.
Whether you feel like too much or never enough, I promise that there are girlfriends who have your back. I promise they feel the same way you do. And you know what? I promise that you are much more than the thoughts that are filling your head. Loud or soft-spoken, goofy or serious, you are perfect.
You are a woman that loves Jesus.
And that’s all that matters.